Why are you single?

I got caught up today reading a few articles on being a singleton. Yup, I am using the word singleton, that I have stolen from Bridget Jones’. A story of a woman who is similar to myself, but in the end finds love.

According to a new study; they say there is a reason you’re single, and it may stay that way.

I call BS! It can’t be some genetic twitch we are born with! What does the woman over there with the 3 carat rock, loyal husband, and beautiful mansion have that I don’t?

I continued to read multiple articles from men and women all over the world, and here are some quotes and exerts from your fellow singletons.

A New York Times article from 2007 stated, that the #1 reason women who are romantically uninvolved is a result due to our culture telling us we don’t need relationships.  Ugh is this true, or is this just another blame we can put on society along with the pressures to being thin, going to college, and having to get married? Why can’t people make up their own minds anymore. Free-will my friends, be who you want to be, do what you want to do, and stop second guessing yourself.

If you’re like me you try and live off of the quotes; “You should never need anyone to make you feel complete,” or “You have to make yourself happy.” Yadda Yadda Yadda, I go back and forth with these. I have moments where I feel like I can take on the world, and have gumption. I, then fall back into my fears of never really knowing love. I’m going to be alone always. Wahh….I’m human, I want to be loved. Plain and simple.

Part of me blames social networking for the lack of interpersonal relations. Now, I am a huge fan of social networking, hello. I have two tumblrs, a facebook, twitter, ect…I’m addicted. I love being able to be in contact with family and friends all over the world, but when it comes to my dating life, ehh that’s another story.  Being someones friend has lost all meaning, friendship WAS an endeared noun to describe an intimate trusted companion, to what now I would describe as a verb that is just click away with a mouse.

We have lost all personal contact, there is no more eye to eye. You can’t read people’s emotions via text. Just not possible. It can be taken 100 different ways, and I believe causes more break ups than hook ups.

So when a woman dates a man and he doesn’t possess all the “features” she requires, she briefly deliberates and continues shopping (Is passionate about his work, check. Loves to travel, check. Forgot to ask how my meeting went, uh-oh. Completely unacceptable.) No longer does a woman need a man or a marriage; now she wants a soul-mate, a partner to share her interests and values and who provides passion and support and fun. She desires a man who won’t require her to sacrifice her identity or every aspect of the single lifestyle she’s come to enjoy.

But until we meet him, the solution to the single person’s isolation may be simple: shut the lid on our laptops and get over ourselves—you don’t have to do it all on your own. We’ll only find the comfort to our singles’ loneliness by spending time in the physical presence of people we love. If we want love, we have to love. We have to open our hearts to connecting again.

Such is life,

Single in the city.